Stronger

Hi. I saw a beautiful quote on Tumblr which I relate so much to and feel strongly about. I take no credits for this but it's so beautiful and important and I feel I should share.

“This is the same advice I gave to my younger sister who is no longer “young”: If you are 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, there is no need for you to be in a relationship. All that will do to you is break your heart over and over again, only for you to grow bitter in age, become insecure and hurt yourself in the process. You expect these men after them to fix what has been broken, your heart when not a single individual in this world can fix that for you except Allah and yourself. At such a young age, there is only a need to work on yourself and nobody else. You have so much potential at that age that can be ruined because of a relationship that has no certainty. Grow to love what you want to do. Grow to be a better Muslim. Men will come and go all your life and you know this. You are right, there isn’t anyone like him because there is someone better than him. At this age, you see other people’s happiness because you can’t find it in yourself. You end up wanting what others have. Understand, you cannot have what others have. You can only have what you have been given and you can only be given what you learn to be thankful for. If you work on yourself now, in years time, that right person will come into your life when you least expect it because you’ve been too busy working on yourself all this time. Read the Qur’an everyday, if not, as often as you can. Pray your salah and make that connection with Allah. If you have Allah there is nothing else you need. Put yourself at the forefront of your own life, take control of it. If you don’t, as you get older, you will become insecure. You will become bitter. You will hurt yourself and hurt other great people who try to be with you. Don’t let this happen to you. Be smart. Be wise and know that you have a beautiful journey towards Allah. Don’t let a person ruin it because they never appreciated you. Learn to appreciate yourself. Love yourself and be ready for anything in life and the right person will come but you need to be right and happy with yourself first. Marriage is there to protect you so only seek marriage and not flings as this is temporary with no guarantees.”

Oh Allah make me stronger everyday.